You Chose To Be a Victim

I went to a meetup today where the discussion was based around victimhood. And no surprise, the event was fully of normies who couldn’t help but victimize themselves. As someone who advocates for radical responsibility of your own life, I couldn’t help but laugh at what they believe.

Never give the pen to the victim. This is the first rule of understanding human narrative. When you grant a victim the ability to write their own story, you receive nothing but a carefully curated fiction where they are always the hero, forever innocent, forever wronged.

The victim is a master storyteller only of their own novel. They craft narratives, carefully edit out their own failures and their own complicity. Every chapter becomes an alibi. Every paragraph a shield against personal responsibility. Give them the pen, and watch how quickly the world transforms into a conspiracy designed solely to oppress them.

Remember: there are no victims, only volunteers.

All wounds are self-inflicted.

Each scenario you’re about to read was brought up by one of the attendees. In these situations they said they were victimized. The abuse victim, the corporate victim, the native reserve victim. All placing the blame on the system, rather than themselves.

Person #1 was a woman talking about domestic abuse…

Think about someone trapped in an “abusive” relationship. They have volunteered to remain in a situation that confirms their deepest, most tragic belief about themselves: that they are fundamentally unlovable and they deserve nothing more than the abuse they receive. They believe only another broken person could love them.

Person #2 was a black man talking about how he is looked over in the corporate world just because he’s black…

The same principle applies to professional life. The person waiting to be a DEI hire is not a victim of systemic inequality, they are a volunteer for mediocrity. They volunteer to be passive, to wait for an external force to validate their worth, rather than taking the risk of proving their own value. Starting a business, pursuing genuine excellence, these require a level of agency they are unwilling to embrace.

Person #3 was someone saying that native reserves are shitholes because of the government oppression…

Small-town inhabitants who never venture beyond their provincial boundaries are not trapped, they are volunteers. They volunteer for a limited existence. They choose the comfort of familiar mediocrity over the potential terror of genuine challenge. It is easier to remain a big fish in a tiny pond than to risk being exposed as average in a larger ecosystem.

The high-agency individual understands this fundamental truth. For them, the very concept of victimhood is an embarrassment. They do not negotiate with circumstances. Where others see obstacles, they see opportunities. Where victims see limitations, they see blank canvases waiting to be reshaped by individual will.

Personal responsibility is not a concept, it is a fundamental law of existence. Your life is the culmination of every decision you have ever made.

It is a choice. And as with all choices, there are consequences. To embrace victimhood is to rot while the world moves on without you. Radical responsibility, on the other hand, is not a guarantee of success, but it is, at the very least, a way to meet the world on your own terms.

You are either the author of your existence or a footnote in someone else's story.

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